Music and Mood

I find that when I am feeling down, I like to listen to or write sad music. Not to make myself feel worse, but to make myself feel better. There is a cathartic value to this method. Most people who ride in my car are constantly irritated by my depressing music playlist. I am constantly told I bum people out. In my defense, I feel like I can relate to the music and knowing someone has felt what I am feeling, it makes me feel a little better.

This is the same reason why you want to dance to upbeat music when you’re in a party mood. You crank up the club music (I have a certain level of disdain for EDM) and before you know it you’re twerking with your squad (#SQUADGOALS). Some people prefer country, and they go down to the honky tonk and line dance. Whatever your go-to dance music is, I think you get the point.

I knew a guy once who preferred to rock out to alternative music when he was mad. Like, crank the volume up and make your eardrums bleed kind of rock out. I can’t head bang without getting nauseous, so I don’t partake in that. Another person we all know is your one lady friend who feels empowered and lips-syncs Beyoncé like they’re starring in their own personal music video. If not, watch the video below.


There is no doubt music has an influence on mood. There is even a specialized field of professionals known as music therapists. The American Music Therapy Association says, “Music therapy is an efficacious and valid treatment for persons who have psychosocial, affective, cognitive and communicative needs.”

People in music therapy get a chance to explore personal feelings and gain new perspectives that can help treat mental health issues.

Some people find expression through music easier to process than complicated words and feelings that can be expressed through a song. Listening to certain music can open up the floodgates and help get somebody to talk about things they aren’t usually comfortable talking about. When you find that someone else relates to you, it’s more comfortable to speak out since you know you’re not the only one.

So, the next time you find yourself in a down mood, put on some sad music. It helps more than you think.


My Fears

What am I afraid of? That is a loaded question for most people, but for me it comes down to three things:

Spiders, Snakes, and Failure.

Although this may seem silly to some, it is a very reasonable response to stress and I stand by it. For instance, spiders are like nature’s assassins. They are small, cloaked in black, and trap things in netting. I remember one time I was getting ready for bed and right before I flipped the lights off I saw a spider dart under my bed. I panicked and went as far as lifting my mattress so I could find it. I never did. Needless to say it took me a long time to fall asleep at night. I’m not sure where my fear of spiders comes from, but I know they’re sneaky, they bite, and I don’t have time for that.

Snakes aren’t as bad, but I still don’t care for them. I have only held one once, and I hated the way its skin felt. I also have seen too many nature documentaries about how venomous some snakes are. I don’t particularly appreciate how cobras can spit, or how they can swallow their live prey whole. They can show up in toilets, your front yard, and even your car. If I was driving and found a snake in my car, I would unbuckle my seat belt and hit a tree just to eject myself out of the car. Yeah, it’s that serious.

Failure is a natural fear for everyone. We feel like we won’t reach our potential, or we aren’t good enough to get that promotion we want. It can be hard to find the right motivation when the going gets tough. I find the best thing to do is remember your goals, stay the course, and get your priorities in-line. The worst thing you can do is let fear stand in your way. That’s why I created my website.

I’ve shared my fears. What are some of yours?